HOW TO RAISE THE PRAYER MEETING BACK TO LIFE

“When the horse dies, dismount.” That’s the advice I got from a Texas pastor regarding ministries in the church that no longer serve a purpose. Most churches still meet on Wednesday, for instance, but have chosen to “dismount” the “dead horse” of the traditional prayer meeting and no longer offer one.

The issue is not that people don’t pray because they do. When people pray, however, 94% of them pray alone. In other words, the horse named “prayer meeting” is DOA.

Is it time to dismount? Or is it time for a resurrection? 

PRAYER MEETINGS CHANGE THE WORLD

The book of Acts is a book of prayer. Private prayer, however, is rarely mentioned.

Instead, whenever the church needed the Spirit’s power for evangelism, they gathered for a prayer meeting (Acts 1:14ff). When they faced persecution, they launched a prayer meeting (Acts 4:23-31). The early church had only one response when their pastors were imprisoned. They started a prayer meeting until their leaders were set free (Acts 12:1-5). 

Other than the gathering in the upper room before Pentecost, arguably the most significant prayer meeting ever conducted was a small, multi-day event in Antioch. There, while the group was fasting and praying, the Holy Spirit called Paul and Barnabas to reach the gentile world with the Gospel. That prayer meeting changed the world (Acts 13:1-5). It’s clear that prayer meetings were the preferred choice of the powerful early church, so why are prayer meetings nearly extinct in the powerless church culture that has survived?

Prayer meetings change the world, but maybe not the way we typically conduct them. Is there a better way? Yes. Here are three ways to resurrect the dead prayer meeting: 

1. PASTORS TAKE THE LEAD

Pastors report spending, on average, between 10-18 hours preparing just one of their weekly sermons. But when it comes to a church prayer meeting, how much time do we devote to preparing? Isn’t a powerful prayer meeting important too? We may argue that prayer should be spontaneous and unplanned so that it might be genuinely led by the Spirit. That’s a good argument until we notice how our lack of planning has left us with dead church prayer meetings.

In the city-wide prayer meetings I help lead, as well as in the local congregation, we begin with a theme. Then, we add relevant Scripture that reinforces that theme. We want our prayer meetings to be Spirit led and Scripture fed. We urge those leading not to “preach” but to pray. Planning is not about writing a script or being unnecessarily controlling but instead about building a platform to welcome the presence of God. 

In a local church’s prayer meeting, the pastor must take the lead and provide prayerful leadership to this desperately needed ministry. As Leonard Ravenhill warned us, “The pastor who isn’t praying is playing.”

2. STRIKE UP THE BAND

When King David moved the ark to Jerusalem and envisioned a permanent temple, one of his first actions was the selection of hundreds of musicians and singers to fuel the unceasing worship in the house of prayer (1 Chronicles 25:6-7). Since the worship was to be nonstop, the need for musicians rotating in shifts climbed into the thousands (1 Chronicles 23:5). 

When we review the status of our prayers kept in heaven, we find them held in “golden bowls” (Revelation 5:8). The creatures holding the bowls of prayer are all carrying harps, too, thus uniting prayer and the music of praise.

Paul also knew that music could be a form of prayer—especially when we’re not just singing about God but worshipfully singing to God! Paul said that one of the pieces of evidence of a Spirit-filled life is a heart full of singing: “Addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart” (Ephesians 5:19). Notice that worship and prayerful singing is “to the Lord.” It’s a praise gift to God while we pray. 

Prayer sings. The biblical history of music combined with prayer is a powerful pattern for today. In your prayer meetings, find a way to incorporate worship music and congregational singing. Something powerful occurs when singing praise becomes a form of prayer. The psalmist recognized it 3000 years ago when he wrote,

“Yet you are holy, enthroned on the praises of Israel” (Psalm 22:3). 

3. LOSE THE LIST, OPEN THE MIC

We love lists. Most church “prayer meetings” I’ve ever been part of have been dependent upon someone writing down prayer requests and finally voicing a prayer when the list was complete. Unfortunately, compiling the list can take 10 minutes, and the prayer can last two minutes. Prayer meetings without prayer are like the fig tree in the gospels—all fig leaves but no figs! We don’t see list-based prayer meetings in the New Testament, and our lifeless facsimiles of real New Testament prayer meetings signal the need for a paradigm shift. 

As a pastor, I moved our people away from lists over time. They still happened occasionally, but not in the prayer meetings I led. 

One night, at one of our church-wide prayer meetings, rather than build a list, I challenged people to share with the congregation whatever they wanted prayer for if it directly related to their lives. It was astounding how transparent and vulnerable people became in that setting. In every conceivable family, the financial, physical, spiritual, and emotional struggle was shared. This approach became the norm for our prayer meetings. People began sharing gut-wrenching stories and personal pain most of us could relate to but didn’t expect to hear. I then called anyone who had ever found victory in that area to come to pray for the person standing beside me in front of the church. It was electrifying. That one gesture—opening the mic for people to personally share their needs—changed our prayer meetings. The prayer meeting came to life. 

We want everyone to be prayed over, so keeping a prayer list for ongoing needs in the church family still makes sense. But if you want to fire on your prayer meeting, open the mic for personal prayer requests and watch for spontaneous combustion. 

None of this happens overnight. It requires planning, persistence, and patience. But if your church brings your prayer meeting back to life, your prayer meeting will bring your church back to life. 

-Kie Bowman

(This article originally appeared in Baptist Press)

SIX WAYS PASTORS BECOME MEN OF PRAYER

Is every pastor a man of prayer? At first, the question sounds odd, like asking if all water is wet or if all fire is hot. The truth, however, may be surprising. Statistically speaking, almost no pastor is satisfied with his prayer life.

During a recent pastors’ conference where I led the prayer response, pastors openly repented of having “no prayer life.” One pastor called me after the conference to confess that he “never prays.” It was surely an exaggeration, but I wonder how many other pastors feel a sense of failure in prayer? Fortunately, beyond anecdotal information alone, we have supporting data. In 2022, Lifeway reported that 72% of pastors believe consistency in their personal prayer lives is their number one spiritual need.

Scripture offers us plenty of incentive to be praying leaders. Jesus, for instance, governed His ministry through prayer. There are about 20 instances in the Gospels during significant points in His ministry when Jesus prayed. If He organized His ministry around prayer, shouldn’t we? 

Having learned from the Master, Peter, and the other Apostles identified prayer as one of their top two priorities in ministry (Acts 6:4). Paul told the Colossians that he never ceased to pray for them (Col.1:9) and that he “wrestled” in prayer on their behalf (Col.4:12). He told the Romans (1:8-10), Corinthians (1 Cor. 1:4), Ephesians (1:16), Philippians (1:3-4), and Thessalonians (1 Th. 1:3-4) something similar. He counseled his younger protege Timothy to shepherd his church around prayer (1 Tim. 2:1-8). 

In the New Testament, church leaders prayed (Acts 1:14; 13:1-4). Why wouldn’t we follow their example? We certainly haven’t improved upon their results!

Prayer is central to New Testament ministry, so what immediate steps can any pastor take to become a man of prayer? 

  • Put God on Your Calendar. First, prioritize prayer like any other important appointment. And remember, if you’re too busy for prayer, you’re too busy. Setting a specific time for prayer each day is critical. Pastors live by calendars, appointments, and deadlines. Meeting with God at the same time every day builds consistency. 
  • Set a Time. Time spent in prayer matters. Even if you start with only 5 minutes a day, it may be an improvement over your current practice. Spiritual growth can’t be microwaved; it has to be marinated. Real prayer requires quality time.
  • Name the Place. Next, determine your place for prayer. You have a room for almost everything else of importance in your life. Why would a pastor not have a prayer place? Jesus said, “when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret” (Mt 6:6). Plainly, a place with limited distractions is essential to praying “in secret.” Wherever your place is, it should be distraction free and always available. 
  • Habit Forming. Keep your commitment. Let’s say, for example, you commit to praying 15 minutes every morning. That’s a good start, but it’s not enough. Instead, for example, commit to praying 15 minutes every morning for 30 days. Remember, “you are what you repeatedly do.” Prayer, like every other priority in your ministry, must become a habit in order to become successful. You’re not just praying. You’re building a habit of prayer. 
  • Fuel the Fire. Every pastor knows that being a “self-starter” is essential for ministry. Maintaining your motivation is an essential key that defines the difference between finishing well or not. No one maintains his motivation levels without frequently fueling the fire. For instance, every pastor needs to read current and classic books on prayer. Read biographies of great prayer warriors. Listen to other leaders teach on prayer. Success means taking advantage of easily accessible wisdom available to fuel your fire. 
  • Team Up. Prayer dominates the book of Acts, yet it is almost impossible to find anyone praying alone. There are only a couple of examples. Instead, it appears that everything in the book of Acts happened at a prayer meeting, after a prayer meeting, or on the way to a prayer meeting. For too long in the modern age, we have made prayer only a DIY project. Of course, secret prayer is necessary, but so are dynamic prayer meetings. Frequently what we call a “prayer meeting” is, in fact, dull and lifeless and bears no resemblance to the prayer meetings in the New Testament where the earth shook when they prayed, prison cells were opened, and the Spirit spoke. Pastors must reclaim the prayer meeting as a vital force for ministry in the 21st century.

Our congregations are hungry for the awareness of God’s presence. The 2023 Asbury revival is a perfect example. Thousands of people traveled to tiny Wilmore, Kentucky, to experience the presence of God in a prayer meeting.

The pastor’s prayer life is not an additional item on his busy “to-do” list. Instead, the praying life is a complete reorientation of how we do ministry. We’ve tried it other ways. Prayer is the better way.

This article originally appeared under the same title in BaptistPress.com